Headwinds/Tailwinds Asymmetry: You’re parents were probably tougher on you than they were on your siblings, right? You’re favourite sports team probably has it harder than other teams in most games. And you probably hit an unfair ratio of red lights, especially when you’re in a hurry. What if I told you these events are often … More Therapeutic Insight #36

Ask yourself: What’s one thing I can do today that I would appreciate when I wake up tomorrow? Now go do it.

I am thankful for my non-toothache today – Thich Nhat Hanh (paraphrase)

You have a tricky brain and it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility. -Paul Gilbert (paraphrase)

“The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.” -Mark Twain

“Pay attention to what you pay attention to.” -Amy Krouse Rosenthal

Respect is hearing a different side of a story with the expectation of learning something. Arrogance is hearing a different side of a story with the expectation of being proven right.

Most of my internal conflicts are the demands of my pride. Most of my relationship conflicts are the demands of my narcissism.

“You can’t make a flower grow by pulling on it.”

At the core of many communication difficulties is a simple antidote: respect. After working on practical communication strategies with hundreds of couples, I’ve consistently found a theme among those who benefit from strategies and insights and those who don’t. It often boils down to one question: are they in therapy because they respect one another … More Therapeutic Insight #27