“Pay attention to what you pay attention to.” -Amy Krouse Rosenthal

Respect is hearing a different side of a story with the expectation of learning something. Arrogance is hearing a different side of a story with the expectation of being proven right.

Most of my internal conflicts are the demands of my pride. Most of my relationship conflicts are the demands of my narcissism.

“You can’t make a flower grow by pulling on it.”

At the core of many communication difficulties is a simple antidote: respect. After working on practical communication strategies with hundreds of couples, I’ve consistently found a theme among those who benefit from strategies and insights and those who don’t. It often boils down to one question: are they in therapy because they respect one another … More Therapeutic Insight #27

Decision making is tough and the bigger the decision, usually the tougher it gets. The good news is, there are people who have been rigorously evaluating human decision making and have some helpful insights for the rest of us. It’s a newer discipline that essentially combines the study of psychology and economics called Behavioural Economics. … More Therapeutic Insight #26

Pobody’s Nerfect.

Our mistakes often have a certain logic.

“If you haven’t made any mistakes lately, you’re either dead or playing things extraordinarily safe.” -Windy Dryden

Nothing reveals our capacity for growth and change like going to a place from our past and remembering how far we’ve come. Inspired by Nelson Mandela: “There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.”